Before I immigrated, my life was full of joy and opportunities. I enrolled in university at 16. I had a 10, 15 and 20-year career plan. Then it became impossible to keep living in the country I came from. My university closed. There was little hope for personal development. So I started over in a new place. No contacts, no money, no idea how to play the game.
I had every kind of irregular job. I was a waitress first. They promoted me when I started proposing tech solutions to increase bookings. Then they fired me the moment I broke a leg, before I could get a sick leave. No one was hiring me with a broken leg. Suddenly I had no way to get my university studies recognised, I didn't speak English, and I had no savings.
I went to the UK as an au pair. I worked in a care home. The mission was to learn English. I did, and I came back with savings to start studying again. Back in Spain I found a more stable job, severely underpaid. When I started looking for something better, COVID hit and I was in an ERE. I changed jobs. Six months later that company went bankrupt and had to fire everyone. One thing after the next. It took several years before I could go back to tech and have real prospects again.
Hundreds of failed applications. Endless selection processes. No clear upskilling pipeline. Ghosting, until I finally understood the rules of the game. Kris lived something similar, until she landed the most average office job. Secure but with no purpose, hustling for second income streams. People conform, women especially, and the muscle of interviewing only builds through reps. That muscle gives you confidence.
I have a friend who is incredible. Let's call her Jess. Jess competed in two Iron Mans. She rode her motorcycle alone from Brussels to Spain just to visit a friend. She gave birth by IVF alone in her apartment during COVID, in the shower. She is remarkable. She lives in Sweden with her two kids, a Master's, a job, and a mortgage. She offered me a two-year home swap. She was willing to quit her job and walk into the unknown with a 2-year-old and a 5-year-old, in a new country, with no job secured. That is courage.